UOAA Discussion Board

Lisa,

I'm glad we are here for you to share. I know you are scared. You're about to go through some significant changes, and being scared is absolutely to be expected. I don't have words to make this easier, but what I can offer is my presence... even if it is over miles and through a computer screen. I'm humbled, as a part of this community, to know that you feel safe here. When I was diagnosed, I was told, by a man I consider to be very wise, that I had little control over the cancer, but what I did have control over was me. He told me to go and make as many memories as I could, because at that time, that was the one thing I could control. The battle to defeat cancer would come in time, the time for me to make memories was right then and there...so I did. And, by the grace of God, I'm still making memories.
If your family is functional (I know some are not), they are not worried about having the holidays messed up. They are going to be there for you and support you and be engaged in making memories with you.
I will pray for you and your family. For healing, strength, and for courage. I firmly believe that I'm still here because of the people that prayed for me. People often say that God won't give you more than you can handle...I think that's nonsense. God gives us stuff we can't handle all the time...it's then that we need to lean on Him. Not trying to get "preachy", just want you to know that you are prayed for...
Have a Merry Christmas, and go make some memories...

David

Thank you David. I don’t think you were being preachy. I believe in the power of prayer and appreciate yours. My twins are home from college and my youngest is a senior in high school. So my nest is full again and I am working on those memories. My family is mostly functional , it is really the kids I am worried about but my husband keeps telling me they are old enough to understand. I know they are but as a mom, I just hate putting them through any of this. Thank you again, and Merry Christmas!

Hi Lisa,
With all that you have been through and the troubles you currently face, you are worried about what you're putting your children through? I couldn't help but smile. You are truly a Gem! A pure Mother in every sense. You have shown strength and courage above and beyond comprehension. I'm sure your children are very proud to call you their Mom and as difficult as it is, they will understand and will be with you every step of the way.
You have every right to be scared. That doesn't diminish your strength in any way. You have the will, your faith and most importantly the love of your husband and family to help you through this.

Thank You for sharing. And like David and I'm sure the rest of the group, I'm happy to hear you're comfortable talking to us.
I wish you all the best with your surgery, recovery and the new year to come.

Murph