Recently received Urostomy (A RANT)

[RWorrilow]

Have colostomy for over 5 years. But do to VERY severe incontinence I've gotten a urostomy. My wife and I have gotten the changing it procedure FAST because of the colostomy I have.
But my question is: I was NEVER told that most of my Prostate would be removed. My Dr. did tell me that I would have ED for about 6 months that may be permanent? Glad that didnt happen..? The DR.s nurse told me that after the surgery. that It would be just as I had a vasectomy. Is this the case? Im very upset with this surgeon, Because none of this was explained to me. All I was ever told OVER and OVER was that I would have ED for several monthsThat could be perm. But most guys will understand this? Before our surgeries (wife had a complete Hysterectomy) We were like rabbits, We are now in our early 50s, And I realize things slow down, But now at around 10 we just go to sleep. I forget what being intimate is?
I truly hope my rant didn't offend anyone? Just hoping to find someone that might understand an explain to me what happened?

[Jono]

What did you have the surgery for? (I get the incontinence part, but what was going on with your prostate, and why are you wheelchair-bound?)
I can probably help you piece together the story if youre comfortable sharing some detail.

[RWorrilow]

his nurse told me that a portion of the prostate was removed, seminal vesicles removed/disconnected. Had the surgery, because of BAD incontinence (a 3 second wait, then the bladder did its thing) prior to the surgery I had a Foley cath That was changed every month. I'm in a wheelchair from Lyme disease. I was bitten by i tic in the 70s and didnt get symptom until the late 90s (I didnt know anything was wrong with me. I finished my high school. 4 years in the service A 1st marriage.