Nothing terrible, just wiped

[ileo73]

Sorry, but here to offload.

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My mother is still healing from her cracked hip just before Christmas. She's worried she may need a wheelchair permanently, and stressed from the paperwork hassles just to get one temporarily. And she's also concerned about a cat who is sneezing blood. My father is caregiver for both of them.

My wife is strung out over work -- an outfit which I swear uses "Dilbert" as a how-to guide -- and whether she should switch careers or industries, and how that works out with ongoing efforts to get pregnant at 43. IVF is a painful and expensive possibility, and a donor egg would be cheaper and easier but someone else's genes. Her recent late period was not pregnancy but the effect of one of the hormone medications the docs had her on. And she is also concerned about an ailing cat, a runty neurotic who has been vomiting frequently.

I'm turning 50 on Monday. I've found a couple of convenient, comfortable and reliable 1-pieces that are taking stress off my skin, but a "new" pressure sore -- which may have been brewing for weeks or months -- just presented itself a week ago, and I'm hoping the thing resolves in another few weeks. And for obvious reasons, I can't really talk to my wife or my parents about my stresses, direct or second-hand. In many ways, my life is good: professional recognition is coming in, and my health is better than it's been in a lot of ways (except for that minor skin thing). But the mismatch between where I wanted to be and where I am is nibbling at me.

OK, done now. Thanks.

[Sandywr]

sorry about the stress that seems to be in your family but the cat that is sneezing blood should be taken to the vet.

[ileo73]

He has been. They think it's a fungal infection.

[daddy57]

Please share, this is exactly the place. Some people who have not known the extra mental stress that goes along with the ostomy and what problems you have that caused you to get one, they will never get it. The added stress from other factors can become overwhelming. I could go on for pages about the other stresses in my life but just let it be said it is a lot. Tonight I almost picked a fight with my wife just because I was tired of dealing with my ostomy and related gut issues. You have every right to feel horrible. Then you have to stop. I have seen your posts are know that you are capable of being , optimistic is about as close a word as I can find. Know this, we have been handed a shit sandwich, but we don't have to pretend to like it. Then there are the good days. The ones where you get to be alive. On those days the ostomy is a minor inconvenience.
I hope you get back to your own self soon. The other people who post here listen to you, and we understand.

Lloyd Goeschl
I am on Facebook in case you need a friend.

[To Good Health]

ileo73, I hope the last 2 months have seen an improvement in your circumstances. daddy57 (who sent a very caring reply) is right, this is the place to download/vent.
All the best,
TGH